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i want help In Making a choice via LadyBeee: 9:34pm On Nov 01

I had a baby in 2015. Her father abandoned us and ran away, so I took up the responsibility of looking after her until she was four years. become staying in lagos with my mum. My mum later relocated to the village and requested that I bring my daughter to stay along with her considering i was still single and wish to get married. My daughter has been my respectable luck attraction considering the fact that I had her. issues became so handy for me. My checking account trippled and God's Grace has all the time been with me. every little thing she vital turned into offered for. seeing that I took her to my mum ultimate year, i've been so lonely. I miss her so a lot. I plan to deliver her lower back after I go back and forth for Christmas but individuals re advising me no longer to are attempting it because it would block my possibilities of getting married. but it's been three hundred and sixty five days considering the fact that she travelled and yet, I haven't even viewed the husba nd that i'm searching for. It would not make any change if she have been right here or now not. I even had suitors when she changed into still with me however now i dont even have any severe person soliciting for my hand in marriage. My mum would not desire me to deliver her again. i am additionally undecided about bringing her back. Please i need your mature suggestions on this concern. Thanks as I watch for your opinions.

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Re: i need assist In Making a decision via SweetPreeq(m): 9:44pm On Nov 01

Did you let the suitors recognize you've got a child?

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Re: i need help In Making a call by using daddytime(m): 9:44pm On Nov 01 children are indeed a blessing and a lucky allure. i'm a witness to this irrefutable reality.

it is a pretty good component that you take into account the above mix but the way you could agree with within the same breath that she'd abate your probabilities of getting betrothed beats my mugu creativeness.

Do you propose on hiding her perpetually?

hear, sis, there are guys like me who love youngsters and would really like you no depend how many of them you already have. Any man who cannot love you with your daughter bound is rarely the appropriate one for you.

You had more suitable stopped permitting ancient school mumsie design and plan your 21st-century existence going forward.

desire you well...

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Re: i want assist In Making a decision by means of LadyBeee: 9:46pm On Nov 01

SweetPreeq:Did you let the suitors recognize you have a child?

yes

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Re: i want support In Making a call by means of LadySarah(f): 9:54pm On Nov 01 AwwwYour mum will omit her business wella.just make certain She receives satisfactory training anyplace She is.

any individual critical with You need to learn about her.

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Re: i need support In Making a call by means of SweetPreeq(m): 10:05pm On Nov 01

LadyBeee:yes

probably they simply wanted to sleep with youIf the person really appreciated u he would have stayed Re: i want help In Making a decision by using thorpido(m): 10:12pm On Nov 01

Will your daughter get best education the place she is?I do not know what they mean by means of blocking your chances of getting married apart from you intend to conceal her from your would-be suitors.for my part,convey your baby and lift her your self.it is going to make you display screen her progress yourself and also hold the bond between you.

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Re: i want help In Making a decision by using LadyBeee: 10:14pm On Nov 01

SweetPreeq:

possibly they just desired to sleep with youIf the grownup really appreciated u he would have stayed

none of them slept with me. i was very cautious Re: i need help In Making a decision via SweetPreeq(m): 10:41pm On Nov 01

LadyBeee:none of them slept with me. i used to be very cautious

Take your newborn lower back

And respectable good fortune to your search

Peace....

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Re: i need support In Making a choice through izywzy(m): four:33am On Nov 02 Re: i want aid In Making a choice by Pavore9: 4:52am On Nov 02

carry her back should you shuttle for the Christmas celebrations as your daughter should bond with you at this stage of her development. If any man is uncomfortable with the fact of your daughter, it's an illustration that remember to now not have a relationship with him because the existence of your daughter should still be common upfront by way of any man who cones your means.

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Re: i need aid In Making a choice by way of Omojudy: 5:48am On Nov 02

I agree with those asserting bring them lower back. Take respectable care of your daughter. No let your pikin come hate you or lose a relationship with her over a in doubt circumstance.I had more suitable considerations than a child outdoor wedluck however under no circumstances hid them from my suitors because in the end them go nevertheless comprehend, so superior be plain from the beginning. That u can focus on your infant is a fine sign of accountability.Be effective My strong Nigerian lady!

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Re: i would like help In Making a decision through Katier00(f): 6:54am On Nov 02

Please bring back your baby and understand the type of men you contend with. look for a single Dad too or a extremely matured man that knows the area of your infant to your life. little ones are capital given to us by using God for investment. It is not the obligation of your mom to educate your infant, she has already achieved hers with the aid of practising you. bring her lower back and teach her how to be contemporary woman. invest your time, power, funds and emotions in her. Set the list so that when a person is available in, he'll comprehend the newborn's price. don't make her believe abandoned

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Re: i need help In Making a choice with the aid of Baldwretch: 7:05am On Nov 02

LadyBeee:I had a toddler in 2015. Her father abandoned us and ran away, so I took up the responsibility of looking after her till she changed into 4 years. changed into staying in lagos with my mum. My mum later relocated to the village and requested that I carry my daughter to live together with her in view that i was nevertheless single and want to get married. My daughter has been my respectable luck charm given that I had her. issues grew to be so effortless for me. My checking account trippled and God's Grace has at all times been with me. everything she needed became provided for. on account that I took her to my mum final year, i've been so lonely. I omit her so a great deal. I plan to convey her lower back after I commute for Christmas however people re advising me now not to are trying it since it would block my chances of getting married. but it surely's been 365 days since she travelled and yet, I haven't even considered the husband that i am attempting to find. It woul d not make any difference if she had been here or no longer. I even had suitors when she was still with me but now i dont even have any severe grownup soliciting for my hand in marriage. My mum doesn't desire me to carry her returned. i'm also undecided about bringing her lower back. Please i want your mature tips on this situation. Thanks as I watch for your opinions.

You had suitors and drove them away? Why didn't they reside? Is it your unhealthy angle? Re: i need help In Making a call with the aid of yeyeosoronga: 7:29am On Nov 02

Baldwretch:

You had suitors and drove them away? Why didn't they reside? Is it your dangerous attitude?

or not it's now not every suitor it's relevant...

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Re: i would like support In Making a call by using LadyBeee: 7:41am On Nov 02

Baldwretch:

You had suitors and drove them away? Why failed to they dwell? Is it your unhealthy attitude?

No. They have been after some thing. You may not take into account. Like I stated earlier, i used to be cautious. as soon as bitten, twice shy

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Re: i want support In Making a call by Baldwretch: 9:58am On Nov 02

LadyBeee:No. They have been after some thing. You may not keep in mind. Like I said previous, i used to be cautious. as soon as bitten, twice shy

Lol, I may not take into account? Wetin man desire once more anyway sex? Anyway sis, I pray the Almighty sends that man that might commit quickly. Amen? Re: i would like support In Making a choice via Baldwretch: 10:00am On Nov 02

yeyeosoronga:

it's now not every suitor it's proper...

I agree, some just need casual enjoyable and nothing critical, however may still we call them suitors?

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Re: i would like support In Making a call via Richy4(m): 10:17am On Nov 02

Go and Get your youngster dear. reason being that any one that does not are looking to see your child doesn't need to be with you.You are looking to sacrifice your child for what? LOVE appropriate?.. Assuming you had been even chuffed with the decision/ arrangement, it would had been stronger but it is evident that you are not happy so the question is what are u nonetheless looking forward to

Re: i want assist In Making a choice by means of ireneidiva(f): 11:07am On Nov 02

LadyBeee:I had a baby in 2015. Her father deserted us and ran away, so I took up the accountability of looking after her till she became 4 years. was staying in lagos with my mum. My mum later relocated to the village and requested that I carry my daughter to live together with her in view that i used to be nevertheless single and want to get married. My daughter has been my good luck allure on the grounds that I had her. things became so easy for me. My checking account trippled and God's Grace has always been with me. every thing she necessary turned into supplied for. for the reason that I took her to my mum last yr, i have been so lonely. I leave out her so a lot. I plan to carry her again after I go back and forth for Christmas but individuals re advising me no longer to try it because it would block my probabilities of getting married. but it's been 12 months considering the fact that she travelled and yet, I have not even considered the husband that i'm searching for. It wo uld not make any difference if she have been here or now not. I even had suitors when she was nevertheless with me but now i dont even have any critical person asking for my hand in marriage. My mum doesn't desire me to bring her back. i'm additionally undecided about bringing her returned. Please i would like your mature suggestions on this situation. Thanks as I wait for your opinions.

So because you wish to marry, you dumped your daughter in the village? surprising. Wont you nevertheless should tell whomever you're marrying that you've a daughter?

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Re: i need help In Making a call through LadyBeee: 11:36am On Nov 02

ireneidiva:

So because you need to marry, you dumped your daughter within the village? miraculous. Wont you nonetheless deserve to tell whomever you are marrying that you've got a daughter?

excuse me! I didn't dump her. She's with my mother and she's taking first rate care of her Re: i would like support In Making a call by using ireneidiva(f): eleven:45am On Nov 02

LadyBeee:excuse me! I failed to dump her. She's with my mother and he or she's taking good care of her

in the village? Please get your daughter.

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Re: i want help In Making a call with the aid of deybholar(f): 1:11pm On Nov 02

Please carry home your baby.

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Re: i want assist In Making a choice via theButterfly: 1:23pm On Nov 02

At her young age, your daughter must bond w| her mother. She should still be staying w| you. that you would be able to all the time take her to talk over with her grandmother.

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Re: i need aid In Making a decision by way of FrLukas(m): 1:28pm On Nov 02 [quote author=LadyBeee post=83665728][/quote]

Please for the love of Mike, go returned and take your child. a baby should be raised by using the mom and never the grandmother.

you are going to get married whether it is so destined. Hiding your daughter so so you might additional your personal hobbies will no longer bode neatly for all worried.

Do you intend to misinform the man you are looking to marry that you just don't have a child?

have you regarded the implications of retaining your daughter together with your mom?

she can grow up to regard you as her aunty.

What if she turns into sexually abused in the village? What if she turns into pregnant for some village boy?

Your mom do not have taken that baby along with her 'cept that she needs her granddaughter to be along with her no longer minding the indisputable fact that the mom of the child remains very a great deal alive.

rejoice your daughter and be pleased with her. reveal her off ev ery single chance you've got obtained. She's your valuable reward.

don't be ashamed of her.

Please, don't delegate the welfare and upbringing of your infant to anybody. you are still alive. Be there 24/7 to your daughter.

You may even deserve to sacrifice your happiness and the chance of future marriage just to see that your daughter is properly raised.

Grandparents have a bent of SPOILING their grandchildren.she will be able to at all times go and spend vacation trips together with her grandma.

Thanks for now not aborting her. you're already blessed for that. Now step up and be her mom.

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Re: i want assist In Making a decision through giftfromGod(f): 1:39pm On Nov 02

op op op, I simply hope you'll by no means remorseful about taking that infant to the village. Your story remains me of an old mama like that. This was identical factor she did by way of taking her daughter to the village. She acquired married like she desired , however the day the younger Man acquired to know that his spouse already had a toddler that changed into hide in the village, that changed into the end of a peaceful marriage. The husband went and married a clean lady who just comprehensive secondary school and when americans query him, the person use the first spouse mistake as an excuse to why he married new wife. To crown it all, the infant that changed into hided in the village grown up to love her grand ma and dislike her organic mom.So it as much as you're making your final choice base on this lengthy episode I narrated.

Re: i want support In Making a call by means of Chubhie: 4:02pm On Nov 02 Make a choice and keep on with it. You unsettle the baby and stunt her building with the indecision.

With or with out a baby, It adjustments nothing when your man indicates up.

Re: i want aid In Making a choice by LadyBeee: 8:27pm On Nov 02

FrLukas:

Please for the love of Mike, go returned and take your infant. a child should be raised by using the mother and not the grandmother.

you will get married whether it is so destined. Hiding your daughter so that you should extra your personal pursuits will no longer bode neatly for all worried.

Do you propose to mislead the person you wish to marry that you simply will not have a baby?

have you regarded the implications of preserving your daughter together with your mom?

she will be able to grow up to regard you as her aunty.

What if she turns into sexually abused within the village? What if she turns into pregnant for some village boy?

Your mom don't have taken that child together with her 'cept that she needs her granddaughter to be together with her now not minding the indisputable fact that the mom of the newborn remains very plenty alive.

celebrate your daughter and be happy with her. demonstrate her off each possibility you have acquired. She's your precious gift.

don't be ashamed of her.

Please, do not delegate the welfare and upbringing of your infant to anybody. you're still alive. Be there 24/7 on your daughter.

You may additionally even should sacrifice your happiness and the prospect of future marriage just to see that your daughter is properly raised.

Grandparents have a tendency of SPOILING their grandchildren.she will at all times go and spend vacation trips together with her grandma.

Thanks for not aborting her. you are already blessed for that. Now step up and be her mom.

and what in regards to the father? should it be simplest me? Re: i need assist In Making a decision by way of jesmond3945: 8:41pm On Nov 02

wait you allowed your newborn to move to the village to make suitors suppose you are single?You in fact denied your child motherly care which no person in this world would have given no longer even your mother.

Re: i want support In Making a choice through 24kmagic(m): eight:42pm On Nov 02 each you and your mum are a little bit egocentric. (Sorry to say).You, you're extra interested in getting married than the way forward for that smallie. Mummy however is the usage of marriage as an excuse to have her grand newborn via her side 24/7.Go and convey that girl back to the metropolis.forget about getting married. If it comes for you, pleasant. but when it would not, no large deal. simply find happiness on your child.

That babe doesn't should develop up within the village. She should dwell within the city and get exposed.As she grows up, she'll get to be trained many issues from the a whole lot of alternatives that abound in Lagos.but make sure to be very cautious along with her. Lagos life is each good and dangerous. If she grows up in a bad atmosphere, you'll not like what she'll become.tackle her neatly and you'll be completely satisfied you had her.however whatever it is, pull her out of that village.

the entire greatest.

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Re: i would like assist In Making a decision by Baldwretch: three:01pm On Nov 03

24kmagic:each you and your mum are a bit bit egocentric. (Sorry to claim).You, you are more drawn to getting married than the way forward for that smallie. Mummy then again is the use of marriage as an excuse to have her grand child by way of her facet 24/7.Go and produce that lady lower back to the metropolis.forget about getting married. If it comes for you, pleasant. but if it doesn't, no huge deal. just locate happiness for your child.

That babe would not need to develop up in the village. She must reside in the city and get exposed.As she grows up, she'll get to be taught many things from the a whole bunch of alternatives that abound in Lagos.but make sure you be very cautious with her. Lagos lifestyles is both first rate and dangerous. If she grows up in a nasty atmosphere, you will not like what she'll develop into.handle her well and you will be glad you had her.but some thing it's, pull her out of that village.

all of the most reliable.

here is really very insensitive. She may still overlook bout marriage because a person put her within the family method earlier than wedlock?

Nah, you should definitely believe your phrases a 2nd time earlier than writing them.

I always go towards the grain in many aspect of discussons so let me suggest for the OP a little bit and criticize her a bit of. i am hoping she reads this.

The actuality is, many and that i mean many talents suitors who see her and her kid would subconsciously expect she's married, so in a sense, her state is driving skills suitors away. at the mall. available in the market. Her consumers. Would you woo a damsel you met on the street who's along with her youngster? No, you could not, and simplest flingers would. Let' tell ourselves the actuality. Single moms have a a bit of slimmer probability of getting a mate. it be actual. it be complicated. We is just not oblivious to it.

nevertheless, she should inform guys who she senses can be attra cted to her about her mistake before it receives severe. it truly is the turning factor of her movements to me. She did not basically do unhealthy (store for newborn's exposure) retaining baby in her mom's region in the village.

Let me offer you one illustration: there's a single mother in the church I worshiped whereas I lived within the SW some months ago. This woman gave me sign like kilode, hmm, however she has a baby; she breastfeeds in my presence. She's very okay and i could be inclined to relax together with her if providence allows, however she has a child. Fullstop.

nonetheless, if i used to be oblivious to the undeniable fact that she has a child before the relationship won momentum, i might be incredibly tough-pressed to call it stop because she has a toddler. I just would never do it. You may additionally call me a bad grownup however this is my cup of tea, haha, we are distinct. Who cares the worth of your domestic's indoors when the outside looks like a ga rbage dump. You get my aspect.

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Re: i want aid In Making a choice via frozen70g: 6:35pm On Nov 03

LadyBeee:I had a baby in 2015. Her father abandoned us and ran away, so I took up the accountability of looking after her until she turned into 4 years. turned into staying in lagos with my mum. My mum later relocated to the village and requested that I bring my daughter to live along with her because i was nonetheless single and want to get married. My daughter has been my first rate good fortune allure on the grounds that I had her. issues grew to become so convenient for me. My checking account trippled and God's Grace has always been with me. everything she crucial turned into offered for. on account that I took her to my mum ultimate 12 months, i have been so lonely. I omit her so plenty. I plan to convey her lower back once I go back and forth for Christmas however people re advising me no longer to are attempting it since it would block my possibilities of getting married. nevertheless it's been one year considering she travelled and yet, I haven't even viewed the husband t hat i'm searching for. It doesn't make any change if she were here or no longer. I even had suitors when she was still with me however now i dont even have any critical adult requesting my hand in marriage. My mum does not need me to deliver her back. i'm also undecided about bringing her lower back. Please i would like your mature tips on this difficulty. Thanks as I watch for your opinions.

Wether she is staying with you or no longer, once it be God's time to your suitors to return they'll come

If she is staying together with your mum and your mum can not let her go, pls leave her together with your mum as that is the best play mate she has at home

if you carry her down, and you deserve to go clubbing or parting over nighttime, where will you maintain her

Any man that comes to you, he should be notified of your daughter and if he loves you, he will love your daughter

once in holiday instances, she and mum can come and spend the vacations with you

Your mum have all of the time in the world to teach her for you I terms of discipline and correction

retain making the funds you will need when you finally get married

finally, decrease your standard to get a man that you can be complacent with and start existence with him

if your specifications are excessive, you may additionally no longer birth with a one room man

forget about her dad, he's not coming returned and don't stay up for him, flow on and elevate your baby and mum along